May 6, 2024
Greetings once again,
I’m Theo Braddy, the Executive Director of the National Council on Independent Living, bringing you another message. I wrote this a few years ago and still, it is needed. I call it “Your Words Hurt Me.”
Today’s message carries a heartfelt message intended for those dear to me, my family, friends, and colleagues. It’s a reflection on ways to enhance our interactions with individuals living with disabilities, such as myself.
Recall the age-old adage imparted by our parents: “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” However, the truth is quite contrary; words possess immense power to inflict pain.
Let’s delve into the language we employ. I understand if you feel weary of constant reminders about the significance of terminology. Yet, it’s crucial to grasp that words not only convey meaning but also shape our perceptions and beliefs.
Take, for instance, the term “handicapped,” with its historical connotations implying helplessness and dependence on charity. When you use such words, do you inadvertently subscribe to the notion that individuals like myself are helpless or powerless?
Image: Theo Braddy Headshot – A black man with a bald head, a salt and pepper full beard wearing eyeglasses, sitting in a wheelchair wearing an orange, blue, and white plaid dress shirt.
Additionally, phrases like ‘wheelchair-bound’ or ‘confined to a wheelchair’ perpetuate negative stereotypes. Your usage of these terms influences your perception of individuals with disabilities, limiting your understanding of our diverse experiences.
Contrary to popular belief, I am not confined to my wheelchair; it’s merely an adaptive tool facilitating mobility. Just as you wouldn’t describe someone as ‘car-bound,’ it’s important to reconsider how you portray individuals like me.
Labeling me as “crippled” suggests a lack of wholeness or equality, which is far from reality. It’s not only our physical conditions that hinder us but societal barriers, both physical and attitudinal, that truly incapacitate us.
Words exercise tremendous influence. They can uplift or undermine individuals. I implore my loved ones to carefully consider the language they use. While I’ve addressed some key points, I encourage further education on the subject through resources like this: https://bit.ly/3Uowaqk.
This message is intended for some of my family and friends, but it is significantly extended to all. Whether we’ve crossed paths or not, I urge everyone to reflect on their words and their impact.
This is Theo Braddy. Until next time, be well.
Theo Braddy
Executive Director
National Council on Independent Living
About NCIL
NCIL is the longest-running national cross-disability grassroots organization, driven by and dedicated to people with disabilities. Since its founding in 1982, NCIL has represented thousands of organizations and individuals, advocating tirelessly for the human and civil rights of people with disabilities across the United States.